Monday, December 30, 2013

The Year That Was... 2013!

T’was the day before the new year, and with another year soon to be over, it’s a good time to recap what’s been an eventful year. 2013 has seen its fair share of challenges and rewards, and with age comes responsibility; indeed it’s been tough taking a year off after my studies to do what I wanted to do, have some time off, and concentrate on my passions, namely music and photography. While I did manage to have many breakthroughs in my passions, on the professional side, it’s been a rough year, with little replies from job applications, and still searching as of now. However I trust God has His plans for me, and I just have to be patient, but also work hard to get a job soon; after all, God helps those who help themselves aye!

This was also a year where many things were laid to rest, where I’d love and lost, but most of all, loved and gained an awesome friend and person, and continuing my journey in life, being with awesome friends around; indeed last year I wrote that I grew closer again to my siblings and besties, and it’s good to be able to still be close with them now and forever! :D It’s been one heck of a journey, going through the biggest of heartaches to still be standing and happy, thank God for everything!

Of course, the biggest thing was going to School of Witness for 2 months in Singapore; to be away from home for a longer period of time was one thing, but to go through everything and learn what we experienced there was amazing! Absolutely a life-changing experience, and I’m not sure if I did a write-up of my experience at SoW, but I will soon!

Anyway, as usual, here’s my year!

January-February
School of Witness here I come! I still remember on New Year’s Day, the day before, the day, and I still can’t believe how nervous, emotional I was of leaving for 2 months, and this for someone who’s never been away from home for more than a week; but it was all definitely worth it! Probably I’d write my experience at SoW separately, so look forward to that!

March
Coming home from that experience, I felt like I could fly! And immediately there was RAY Camp coming, and it was perfect! I was able to use my experience for camp, but as I was away for the initial planning, I didn’t get involved much, but in the end it was a memorable camp, because it was the first time I did the final day and also brief things here and there. Most importantly, it’s good to see that the people around you learnt something and experienced something during camp, which makes it all the more worthwhile!

April
Easter time! Met up with my old school classmates Ameline, Anthea and Lorenzo, then went for a theatre production by Synergy, EXODUS! After that I went for my 1st Green Leaf Theatre House play for the year, and the 1st of many ;) IU Day at Suria was interesting, went to have a look and to meet up with friends. This was also my first RAY handling after I came back to KK, so I got the chance to work with RAY again!

May
Lifeteen Bazaar started off the month, and did my part to help and had fun along the way! Then celebrated my bestie’s birthday, and it was probably one of the most memorable birthday celebrations ever! It’s because it nearly didn’t end up happening! Thanks to a reverse ‘surprise’ and the following ‘negotiations’, it was definitely a night to remember! Ended the month by celebrating Ka’amatan both days at KDCA with besties, especially Vina, Jaime and Jiwan! Hehe... Got wet in the rain and soaked all the way!

June
This was a busy month, as it was Arts Month, incredible! Another Green Leaf Theatre House show, this time at DBP, all the way up! This year it seems that I got involved with them quite alot, it’s because I love to watch performing arts, and it’s something I like, and it’s all my friends, so it was good! A hobbits outing came soon, as Shasha came home for the holidays, and miss those kinda outings now, as (almost) everyone is kinda busy nowadays L Then it was the KK International Film Fest, and my buddy Jo made a film submission, and it was great! A film about Life, and it won 2nd prize! This was followed by KK Jazz Fest, and as always, great to watch all those artists and musicians do their thing and wanting to listen and learn as much from them! The month closed out with, yes, Talking Sabah! It’s a set of 3 mini-stories, presented by Green Leaf, and for the 1st time, my pals Edna and Jiwan acted! It was so awesome, was so proud of them and of course the whole crew and actors! This month also was the build-up to something big in my career...

July
For the first time in my life, I performed on stage for a song with my bestie Gabriela in a competition! It was a new experience, and a bittersweet one; we performed well and got through to the finals, but we both couldn’t make the finals due to issues, and it was a missed opportunity, but one that will surely come again J The experience of going on (a relatively small, no, tiny!) stage, perform in front of a (again, small) crowd, it was nerve-wrecking, but at the same time exciting! Truly a moment I’ll never forget; 7 July! RAY Anniversary is always on July, and this time we did something different; we did it on the beach! We celebrated the anniversary at the beach, and little did I know, after that it would be the last time we’d see the beach as it was; now it’s different. MY convocation was also the end of the month, so I was off to KL and Nilai, and also Singapore until early August ;) heheh... The convocation was nice, get to meet my old classmates, and for the 1st time, we stayed (so far) way out of town! Thankfully my bestie Joey drove down and we spent time together around; miss those moments already! Went to the beach in Sepang, drove to Nilai town and beyond, exploring the area!

August
Singapore calling! After the convo, we were off to Singapore! It was an opportunity to catch up with my friends from KK and SoW there, and that’s just what I did! It was nice to see them all again after the experiences we had at SoW, and it was fun catching up! The month was definitely memorable for one thing though: BARCELONA IN KL!! Well, Shah Alam to be exact, and the organisation was shambolic; last minute change of venue, but nothing could dampen the spirit! To be able to watch Barcelona in front live, and to watch their technique and ability was breath-taking! Definitely one for the memory, along with watching Liverpool in 2011! It was a crazy 2-week trip; KL-SG-KL then home, incredible haha! On 31st August, another hobbits gathering, but this time for Jaime’s farewell, and we’re missing her already! Managed to crash a wedding at Putra ballroom again!

September
If the previous months was the highest of highs, this was the lowest of lows; it was the time my laptop and camera got stolen, 2 precious things that I really use, and really need, and both are gone now. It started off well though, with Bonding With Gaya Street, meeting Adam Tambakau and watching Roger Wang, as usual ;) Then another Lifeteen Mini-Bazaar, and it was the 1st time there was 2 bazaars in a year, but they have their reasons I guess ;) then the big shock, and just very painful...

October
This was another first; Borneo Performing Arts Festival at Le Meridien, comprising of many arts, and it was a new experience, even as a spectator. There was poem recitals, strings, and all sorts of arts! Then had a celebration at my bestie’s house with old friends, a nice night, went out to had lamb as well! Ha! Then we celebrated Abigail’s birthday at MetroTown, another new experience. A nice place, hope to be back there soon!

November
ASPAC was the theme of the month, and also many friends started to come back for the year-end holidays! I got invited to go to a conference about Pro-Life and Family Living, and it was an eye-opener; that some things are just so hard to believe, but it’s true, and sometimes the things we take aren’t that necessarily good for us. Earlier we celebrated JJ’s birthday at his place, BBQ goodness! Ha! It was the month before Christmas, and as usual, preparations aplenty!

December
CHRISTMAS! Ah the good tidings ;) What better way to say this month than Christmas and carolling! This time, I co-lead one group in RAY with JJ, and it was a sporadic carolling! Not many days, but it was good; at least we had some rest in between, and managed to catch the Gaya Christmas Festival! Caroling was a blast, with all of them really great! And during the off days, managed to catch up with Jude and hobbits carolling! It was their last this year, and sad that I couldn’t join them on their last ever day, as I had my own group as well, but glad to see them having a blast. It was also the time for 11-12-13, and this time I spent the day with my besties Katrin and Adriana, which was lovely: 3 caroling this year was different;  it was memorable but also something else... This time, I went to Christmas Eve mass with my bestie Gabby, and it’s a blessing to be able to be with a close friend J On Christmas Day, went back to my cousin’s house on a roadtrip, nice to get away from the city and relax, perfect way to (almost) end the year!

So another year has come and gone, and this time, the highs were really high and flying, but the lows were really depressing and crushing, but it’s all part of life, growing up and handling everything. This year has been really challenging spiritually, emotionally and mentally, especially after SoW, and being jobless for a year. The pressures of society is greater, but I won’t let that affect me. I’ll carry on and do what I have to do ;)

To be honest, this year felt so fast, too fast, like it just flew by, and I’m not really looking forward to the year ahead, but then again, sometimes life is a mystery; you never know what will happen next, so just gotta keep positive, and say goodbye to 2013, and hello 2014!


Saturday, July 20, 2013

Bigger than my body..

First of all, thank God for everything, really feel good about myself now and really happy now, feel so free and relaxed after everything that's happened this past 3 months, mostly due to my own mistakes and overthinking...

Right now, I'm just blessed and happy to know everyone around me in my life, and being able to finally settle all those doubts, sort it out, and good to know we're great friends now, yeah everything's so fine now, we can talk and joke about anything, and the awkwardness is gone, and I'm just so happy, guess I know she's one of my true friends now, and yeah that was a HUGE weight off my shoulders, and I really thank God for answering my prayers :')

I guess a slow change of mentality is working; being positive, having a positive mindset, being able to trust God with everything, and not going in this world looking for someone to be with, don't force love, let love come and find you, and now I'm just being patient and waiting :)

Soon I'm off for my graduation, and after that, finally, it's time to get a job... A part of me's excited, another part of me is nervous, but I guess it's normal... I want to make this work, get this chance and start a new phase of life; working...


Saturday, June 22, 2013

A face to call home...

Insecurity kills. So bad. Words can't describe how damn insecure I am now lately, these days I'm just so affected, so scared of basically nothing, yet the insecurity keeps haunting me inside... Losing a friend is bad enough, but the thought of drifting apart from a BEST friend really kills me inside... Maybe it won't happen, maybe it will, but the thought is there :(

This past couple of weeks has been really lonely; haven't met my besties for a while, and I observed things changed that really caught me off-guard... Seeing how things stood still, or even changed really surprised me... I'm just scared to be so alone now, when all my friends are out there with their own friends, and in the end leaving me behind, leaving me alone...

Monday, May 20, 2013

The Last Song I'll Write For You

I can tell something’s not the same
Cause we’re both losing at the loving game
We’re hanging from words and your tongue is on fire
And I can’t keep putting out the flames

There was a time when you could tell the world
That you, you knew I would fight for you
You knew I would fight for you
But now I know that I can let you go
Cause I wrote the last song I’ll write for you
The last song I’ll write for you

I’ve been waiting just to feel this way
Where my night’s not made by every day
That you ever had, the good and the bad cause I
I’m through calling out your name

There was a time when you could tell the world
That you, you knew I would fight for you
You knew I would fight for you
But now I know that I can let you go
Cause I wrote the last song I’ll write for you
The last song I’ll write for you

We’re just drifting apart
Two beats in two different hearts
Before I say goodnight, I want you to know

There was a time when you could tell the world
That you, you knew I would fight for you
You knew I would fight for you
But now I know that I can let you go
Cause I wrote the last song I’ll write for you
The last song I’ll write for you

Now I know that I can let you go
Cause I wrote the last song I’ll write for you
This is the last song I’ll write for you



Friday, May 17, 2013

Looking to the future...

Every successful organisation, team or company moves forward at every instant, building on what they acheived and improving or taking things to the next level... Sometimes changes need to be made; in every company there will be employees who will come and go; in every team players come and go, they change every now and then, but the team remains...

Sometimes it hurts to get too attached to loved ones; I can say right now I feel so, so hurt, but I understand what's going on... Still, there comes a time when this gets too much to handle, and it's time to let go... I love them so much for different reasons and circumstances, but now it's best to not get too attached and let go... I can't stand being taken for granted, being ignored, not being appreciated for what I do for them, when I'm always there for them, and being "graded" lower than their friends, when I've known them for years and years... I thought we were close, I thought you'd value me higher, I guess I'm wrong, nice to know where I stand, this is not some simple thing, this has been going on for months!

If things don't start to change, if they don't realise what's going on, if they continue to leave me behind or put me aside, or take me for granted, then it's time to have a talk, and if there is a difference of opinion, then it's best to go our separate ways..

I should have known this was coming....

Friday, May 03, 2013

Lines on my face...

I am so tired of everything, tired of life, tired of trying to handle and manage my life now, with everything that's going on, one day I may just explode and spill everything and leave, maybe one day when I tell everything then you'll realize how much have I kept inside my heart, how much I got hurt but still I carried on, how much things are going on that no one knows, one day...

Lately these past 2 weeks I realize alot of things that, honestly, made me disappointed and sad, but that's life, I've gotta move on and fight on... What I realize is that when you're down in the shits, no one really cares, whatever they said or promised, most of it are lies, or they have selective memory, or they just don't care... I don't expect anyone to be there on my deathbed anymore or even at my funeral, I'm a realist, and I don't care, why should I when people don't?

If you really mean what you say, you'll do it, get back to me, or even just remember it, simple no? Most of the time, they don't... Also, I gotta learn not to get too attached to someone very close to me, it seems that things aren't what they seem anymore... That's the thing when people grow up; friendships get put aside, they focus on certain things, and that's normal, but if what she's focusing on doesn't include me in her life, then that's it, time to part ways...

Motivation is a very strong thing; too much and it can get out of hand; too little and giving up would be easy... It's not easy to manage it sometimes; right now, I don't feel motivated to continue my current job, and I think now I need a move away to really kick-start my life again, just as I did during SoW... Those 2 months were really great; they were right when they said it wasn't going to be easy coming back... In hindsight, I wish I stayed and continued to discern...

One day this will all come to pass, as George Harrison once sang, "all things must pass away" and one day I won't be here anymore, when is that day, only God knows...

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

sure be cool if you did...


"You don't have to keep me falling like this, but it'd sure be cool if you did..."

right now this song is stuck in my head, and you know what it reminds me of? hope that was long lost when I found out you were with him, the night I heard the news my heart literally broke in half, and it was even raining, the emotions are still raw, only now I can face it slowly and start to move on...

I wrote this to her: "if you're reading this, I really thank God I have a friend, a sister like you, someone who's so pure, from the heart, who sees people like me for who they are, who sees the heart and not the looks, and you've taught me so much and really helped me so much in my faith, and most of all just being there for me as a friend, and I have no regrets whatsoever in getting to know you, and you're an amazing person, and you have an amazing partner now that will really take care of you and complete you, and I'm very happy to see that :') may we be friends forever! :D"

right now, I still mean every word I said, but at the same time, it's hard letting you go; no words could describe how much I actually loved you, as someone who would accept me for who I am, and I really saw you as the one, but obviously now that door's closed, and it hurts that it just won't be the same anymore; I don't know, I really feel so different now...

every night my heart would just go into overdrive mode and just think so much about what went wrong, what did I do, everything that can be thought of, there's the facts.. every night it's just so hard for me to sleep, so much running through my mind, so many questions left unanswered...

I really saw her as the one for my future, someone that I could be with and just be ourselves, be open and just be honest with each other, but now obviously that's over...

I still remember the night I heard the news, I nearly cried in front of my house, and until now I still haven't cried it out yet, I really want to, but I can't... does it mean I've already accepted the fact and moved on, or am I still holding on to whatever slim hopes I have to be with you?

the following days were, at best just brushing it aside; at worst, awkward and really just wanting to stay in my room and avoid everyone, I just couldn't face the world with such difficult emotions at the time... even now, I'm still not myself yet, I just wanted to avoid everyone, except my besties, and yeah, just shut myself down from the world...

when he told me that you and him were together, I nearly wanted to cry again, but ended up laughing and just screaming random stuff, but I understood everything that happens, and my bestfriend even hugged me and said "good job, I'm proud of you" and that saved me from being so gutted and down, the fact I could face it and deal with it, no matter how slow or little...

that Easter night just confirmed everything, and that night will always be a reminder of how I let her slip through my fingers, how it all finally ended, how it was confirmed: that I would be without her...

this is the first serious crush I ever had, the most serious one, the most committed one I tried, I really wanted to be there for her, to just care for her, and I did, I just did, without any motives or hidden agendas; I purely loved her from the bottom of my heart, and that's why its just so, so hard to let you go, but I have to, I must, for everyone's good, it's time for me to move on...

this is the first time I ever chased someone and really stayed there for her, but in the end it just wasn't enough... sometimes love just ain't enough...